Okay so we all have bad relationships I know. I had had boyfriends in middle school but they were always just someone to call by that title. I didn't have my frist serious boyfriend until 9th grade when S (one of my best friends) introduced me to Donkey (ex-boyfriend). Once S introduced us during gym class I began texting him all the time. We asked each other the basic questions like "what's your favorite color" and "what kind of music do you like" and it all seemed good. Donkey seemed like a true gentleman but that didn't last too long.
I should have known something was wrong with him when he asked me out over text instead of in person. I was too happy to care because I really liked the person I THOUGHT he was. We still texted all the time and hung out at school whenever we could. After just a couple weeks we started saying we loved each other, warning sign #2. When he said it he almost sounded robotic after a while. The first few weeks he sounded genuine but then it almost seemed like he said it because he wanted something. Which I later found out he did want something.
Eventually we started talking over the phone. It started out platonic and sounded like typical teenagers talking about school and such but over time it progressed into talks about more "dirty" subjects. I didn't know any better because the extent of the fooling around began small. We would talk dirty but not so anything about it until Donkey's birthday. It began getting a little physical but nothing too bad. We kept that up for about a month and then the weasel took it to a whole new level. I lost my true innocence on March 22, 2010. I didn't know any better and he convinced me it was alright.
Now before you say anything about Dee being mine because of this I will have you know I was on hormone therapy for bad cramps and had that extra bonus when I needed it most.
No he did not abuse me into it this first time but eventually I began to realize it was a mistake and began telling him no. At one point he threatened our relationship if I did not give him what he wanted and that is when I realized I needed to end it. Unfortunately that was easier said then done at first because he had friends who were very scary and he would actually, discreetly, threaten to have them hurt me. Eventually I couldn't take the bullying anymore so I finally broke it off. I couldn't tell if the fallen face he gave me was true or if he was just a really good actor like when I first met him.
It ended badly for me, left me feeling used and hated. All I can offer is to all you girls out there not all men are like this but be careful. If they bring up dirty topics and you are not comfortable with it tell them. If they threaten your relationship they were never worth dating and do not diserve you. Same for you boys and please both genders do not mistreat your boyfriend/girlfriend. It can hurt them badly and that is not good. Also do not send any pictures other than head shots unless you know for sure you can trust them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I was lucky and as soon as I broke up with Donkey I was able to delete all picture he had of me off his phone, some girls aren't so lucky.
I love it. I just got out of a bad relationship like that. He used me for sex. I am 16. He later told me he cheated on me with my best friend. I was so hurt I couldnt eat, sleep, or go do anything.. I lost so much weight, and I felt so weak.. Its getting better, but I still hurt. I feel dirty. He wad my first everything.
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Farewell, G.
Oh my gosh I am so sorry! It will get better over time. I'm not much older than you, only 17. It's taken me three years to get completely over him and having friends to talk to will help!
DeleteI am so sorry about his cheating, that is horribel. Cheating is one thing but doing that to you with your best friend? Worst thing ever!
I am only strong because I have friends and family surrounding me. You will be able to get through this, just keep your head up and ignore him and all other men who want to hurt you.
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Also never hide it from people, hiding it will hurt more than telling someone so they know. And sometimes you'll get lucky and they wont care and still think of you as pure and innocent.
DeleteHow do you know that will work :(
ReplyDeleteIt has worked for me. I told my current BF about it and he thinks nothing less of me than he did before. If they don't accept you for who you are they aren't worth your time or tears
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